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This video talks about how we have the power to cultivate our own confidence.

We have the power to cultivate our own confidence. We can learn where confidence comes from and use these three simple and practical tips to build confidence within ourselves. Even if you have failed multiple times before, you can still learn how to be  more of a confident person.

Where Does Confidence Come From?

Confidence comes first from the genes you received at birth. Secondly, confidence comes from how you were treated by others in your environment. Finally, confidence comes from the things in life you have control over. For example, the choices you make and the risks you take throughout life will give you more confidence if you respond well to those challenges.

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Try a Quick Fix

Here are a few tips to give you momentary confidence. When you are beginning a difficult task, picture yourself succeeding. You can also listen to your favorite music or something with a deep base to get you going. Standing in a powerful pose or even giving yourself a pep talk can help build confidence as well.

Believe in Your Ability to Improve

You need to believe that you can improve your abilities and talents. If you have this growth mindset, you will not easily give up when faced with something you don’t normally do well. Train your mind to think that “a challenge is an opportunity to learn and grow”. Neuroscience has proven that connections in your brain grow and get stronger with study and practice.  

Practice Failure

Failure happens to everyone. Confidence comes when you keep trying, despite your failures. When you do, you will be more equipped to handle the next setback constructively, try new strategies, and persevere.

The choices you make throughout life play a big role in developing confidence. People that choose to have a growth mindset are successful in life because they develop into a more confident person. Life isn’t easy and you are going to make mistakes, but through these three simple steps, you can cultivate your own confidence.

 

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Key Points:

  • Confidence comes from your genetic makeup and from how others treat you. 
  • You can practice being confident by visualizing success.
  • Having a growth mindset will help you to work at getting better at certain tasks thereby increasing your confidence.
  • Failure happens to everyone so be ready for it and keep going. 

Quote This:

When you have confidence, you can have a lot of fun. And when you have fun, you can do amazing things. – Joe Namath

See Also: Success

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Describe confidence in your own words.
  3. What area in life do you have the most confidence in yourself? What are you least confident doing?
  4. On a scale with 1 being the least confident and 10 being the most confident, where would you rate yourself overall? Why did you rate yourself this way?
  5. How has your environment growing up or challenges in life decreased your confidence? How have things in the past boosted your confidence?
  6. What do you do to give yourself short term confidence? Have you ever given yourself a pep talk? What do you tell yourself to make you feel more  confident?
  7. Describe the difference between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset. Do you have more of a growth mindset or a fixed one? Why?
  8. Describe a time you failed and what you did to persevere.
  9. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.