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Being in a relationship with an alcoholic is stressful and difficult. It’s important to know what you need to do to take care of yourself.

Key Points:

  • Alcoholism, like many addictions, does not just impact the user. Partners and children are also affected.
  • Attempts to solve the problem in isolation, or to hide the addiction, typically fail.
  • Al-Anon offers a variety of programs for friends and family of an alcoholic, from conferences to local face-to-face meetings, and even virtual support meetings.
  • Organizations which offer addiction treatment often include programs focused on familial support.
  • If you are the partner of someone dealing with addiction to alcohol, it’s okay to seek help for yourself. You cannot do it on your own.

Quote This:

Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including yourself. -Anne Lamott

See Also: Addiction, Alcohol, Marriage

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Read the following forum post from the Al-Anon Forum: I Learned I Am Not Alone. Do you feel alone in dealing with your alcoholic partner?  Explain.
  3. What emotions do you feel when you allow yourself to think about your partner’s alcoholism? How do you interact with those feelings?
  4. Why is alcoholism referred to as a “family disease?” In what ways have you seen alcoholism affect marriages? Kids?
  5. What are the dangers of not addressing these issues?
  6. Plan your next step. Write down a firm goal that includes a deadline for either finding a counselor or establishing a connection with Al-Anon or a similar group.
  7. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.