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When you’re in high school it can be really hard to be yourself. Everyone seems to act, talk, and dress the same. Being yourself can actually be scary. You may be afraid of being rejected or ridiculed, but it’s important to be yourself and not just follow the crowd.
Drawbacks of Being a Follower
When you are a follower your opinions, beliefs, and idea aren’t being supported. You are trying so hard to be like those around you that you forget what really matters to you. It can cause you to infringe on your morals and maybe even do things you’ll regret.
People can tell when you are just being a follower. It’s noticeable when who you are changes depending on who you are around. We should all try to have integrity. Integrity is all about being the same person no matter where you go or who you’re with.
Think for Yourself and Be Yourself
It’s important to think for yourself. Everyone is unique. When you try to change who you are to be like someone else, you are compromising yourself. At some point, the person you are trying to be won’t be around. You’ll end up in a situation where you have to formulate your own thoughts and opinions, and if you don’t do that now, it will be harder to do in the future.
Not being a follower doesn’t mean you have to be a leader. Just because you don’t strive to be like other people doesn’t mean you have to be an outspoken person. You can just be a watcher and learner. You can learn from the way other people act and use those observations to better yourself.
Being a doormat for others isn’t a good thing. You should put effort into being yourself and standing up for the things you believe in. You can be with others and learn and grow from them without losing yourself in the process.