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Dating in high school can be hard, so here are some things you should and shouldn’t do.

Dating in high school can be really hard and confusing. Chance are, the person you’re dating in high school won’t be the person you marry. This can make it hard to take dating seriously. However, if you think you are ready to be in a relationship, there are some things you should remember.

You Don’t Have to Be in a Relationship to Have Fun in High School

Being in a relationship isn’t a necessary thing in high school. You may look around and see everyone else in a relationship and think that you have to be in one as well. However, if you don’t have the desire to be in a relationship or aren’t interested in anyone, then you don’t need to date. You can have just as much fun in high school while being single.

If you are going to date in high school there are some things you need to keep in mind.

Always Be Respectful

Respect should be one of your top priorities in a relationship. You should always respect the other person’s thoughts, values, and opinions. You shouldn’t do things that make them feel uncomfortable or disrespected.

Don’t Spend All of Your Time with the Person You Are Dating

You shouldn’t stop hanging out with everyone else just because you got into a relationship. You and your boyfriend or girlfriend should continue to spend time with people outside of your relationship. If you only spend time with each other then you can very easily get overwhelmed and annoyed with the other person.

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Date in Groups

Dating in groups will help you to keep friendships with people outside of your relationship, and it also takes away a lot of pressure. Dating in high school can be awkward and uncomfortable, but if you have other people with you, it can make conversation easier and the date even more fun.

Don’t Lead People On

You shouldn’t lead people to believe that you want to date them when you really don’t. This can be hurtful and rude. If you don’t intend to date someone, then don’t make it seem like you do. This can cause people to lose trust in you and even make it so others wn’t want to date you.

Have the Right Mindset

Understand that the person you are dating right now is most likely not the person you will marry. However, you should still treat them with all the respect you can give and take your relationship seriously. You should use this as an opportunity to learn the characteristics you like and don’t like in the person you are dating. This will help you to create standards to help you to identify the person that you may marry in the future.

[Related: What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like?]

Dating in high school isn’t always going to be easy. It can be a lot of work and lead to a lot heartbreak. However, if you go into a dating relationship with these things in mind it can make your next relationship better.

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Describe the most awkward date you have ever been on. What made it so uncomfortable?
  3. Have you ever been in a relationship? What were some things you enjoyed about it? What were some things you didn’t enjoy about it?
  4. Do you think people date in high school because they feel pressured by those around them? Why or why not?
  5. Why do you think it’s important to always treat the person you are dating with respect?
  6. Have you ever had a friend stop spending time with you once they got into a relationship? How did that make you feel?
  7. What do you think some other important things to remember are when dating in high school?
  8. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.