What’s the difference between holding a grudge and releasing a friendship?
Talking Points:
- You won’t have deep friendships with everyone. People are different and not everyone gets along perfectly. You have to pick and choose who you spend the most time with.
- Drawing a relational boundary doesn’t require a grudge. You can draw a boundary without being bitter.
- Learn to say, “I wish you the best.” This is the test to see if you’re really holding a grudge. If you can truly wish someone the best without being best friends with them, you’re probably not holding a grudge.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Have you ever had to release a relationship? What happened?
- In what ways have you seen that you’re not going to be best friends with everyone?
- What sorts of boundaries have you had to draw with people? Why did you perceive that those boundaries were needed for those relationships?
- Have you ever held a grudge against someone? What happened?
- Has anyone ever held a grudge against you? What happened?
- How can you learn to get over a grudge and to truly wish others the best?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
