Our culture would say love is only about feelings. But, lasting love is based on more than just feelings.
Talking Points:
- People are fickle, and feelings can be dangerous and can lead us astray, especially when it comes to relationships. A healthy marriage is not built most prominently on feelings or emotions.
- When a man and woman come together in marriage, they’re making a commitment. You take vows that are promises to stick together in the good and bad times.
- Marriage Basics #1: Love is a choice, not just a feeling. Feelings aren’t bad – but they come and go. The valiant part of marital love is the choosing part.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Make two lists: (1) how feelings can be good (2) how feelings cause problems. How have feelings affected your marriage positively and negatively?
- Looking back, do you think you understood the commitment you were making on your wedding day? What promises have proven hardest to keep?
- List some choices or sacrifices you’ve made for your marriage. How did you come to those decisions?
- Talk about the 5 love languages. Which one is your love language? Which one is your spouse’s primary love language? What are some practical ways you can start speaking your spouse’s language?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
