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This topic is adapted from the FLEXTALK YouTube channel.

Every athlete has nerves or butterflies before a competition. But many also struggle with real fear.

[Related: Ask a Pro Football Player]

Video Highlights:

  • Fear can cause athletes to experience sub-par performance. Tony calls it “competing in quicksand.”
  • Tony’s problem was that he placed his value in the wrong thing – his ability and identity as an athlete. He had to realize his true value and that winning or losing didn’t change who he was.
  • When Tony realized his true identity, he also realized he had nothing to lose. And he could live and compete like he had nothing to lose. He was set free to be and do his best.

Tony had to realize who he truly was deep down, and one thing was certain: he wasn’t defined by his athletic performance. Whether he became the greatest athlete in his sport or experienced a career-ending injury, his value as a person remained unchanged. Every athlete has to realize this truth.

Who are you deep down?

Written content for this topic by Daniel Martin.

Discussion Questions:

  1. Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
  2. What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
  3. Have you ever struggled with fear – not just nerves – in athletics? Explain.
  4. What spoke to you most about Tony’s story? Why?
  5. Where do you place your identity? Why?
  6. How does having the right perspective about our identity give us the power to succeed in life and understand our true value?
  7. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.