Pornography Addiction in Marriage
Don’t believe the lie that what is done in secret can’t hurt anyone. Sex is meant to be a union between a man and a woman.
Pornography Is About Self-Stimulation
God’s design for sex is that it’s a selfless act. It’s about meeting the needs of the other person ahead of your own. God designed marriage to be about unifying a husband and a wife to bring mutual satisfaction. Pornography encourages the opposite. It’s only about fulfilling yourself.
Any Action You Do in Secret Is Destructive
If you are doing things in secret, be on notice that it’s not a good thing to be doing. Lies and deception will only bring pain. Don’t think that as long as your spouse doesn’t know, then everything is okay. No matter how you try to justify it, porn is destructive and a roadblock to a healthy marriage.
Pornography Is Like Adultery
Even though it’s just a picture or a video on a screen, pornography is allowing someone else into the marriage. It takes your attention, your energy, your attraction, and your thoughts. Your spouse isn’t what fulfills you but this other secret thing. The same issues of trust and hurt arise when a spouse discovers a porn addiction as they do if they discover an affair.
Get Help and Be Accountable to Your Spouse
Don’t keep this secret to yourself and think that you can manage the issue. Porn is a real issue with real consequences. Repent of this sin before God. Submit to God’s word. Seek help from a professional who understands this addiction. Confess your struggle to your pastor or trusted friend who will pray for you. Be honest and accountable to your spouse and be a totally open book about your viewing history online.
- Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
- What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
- In your own words, how has pornography affected your marriage?
- How open have you been about this issue in your marriage? Explain.
- How could counseling and accountability help you and your marriage?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.