As parents, we think the ultimate win is having successful, independent kids. Is there something more, though?
Talking Points:
- Stephen Covey wrote a book that talked about the pathway to maturity which happens in three stages: dependence, independence and interdependence.
- A dependent child is the young child who can’t feed themselves or take care of themselves in any way. The world revolves around them.
- An independent child starts to assert themselves and shows a desire to explore and learn about the world around them on their own. This is especially real in the teenage years. This is a less dependent stage but still very much a “me-centered” existence.
- An interdependent child is independent but realizes that they’re are one part of a greater whole. Instead of just living for themselves, they look for ways to help and serve others.
- True maturity is about taking ownership of your own life while also looking for ways to serve others and contribute to society in healthy and productive ways.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- What were some of your hopes and dreams as a kid? How did those things come to fruition in your life? Did your parents help you to accomplish them?
- What is your ultimate goal as a parent? What have you done to make this goal a reality in the lives of your kids?
- What was positive about having “dependent” kids?” What was tough? Explain.
- How have your kids shown their independent spirit? What has been positive about that? What has been negative?
- In what ways can independence be a selfish existence?
- Describe the idea of interdependence in your own words. How can you encourage your kids to get to this level of maturity?
- What are some practical things you can do to get your kids involved in the community?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
