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With the rise of social media and smartphones, fewer and fewer families are taking out time to have conversations. In this topic, find out how and why it’s important to talk as a family.
Talking Will Help Your Kids
Especially in junior high and high school, tweens and teens are experiencing a myriad of new, sometimes confusing, emotions. Parents, this is definitely not the time to check out! Talking with your kids will help them parse out some of the tough emotions that come with adolescence.
A Culture of Conversation
If business as usual for your family involves everyone in their own rooms doing their own thing, it might be tough to get started with family conversations because you don’t have a culture of conversation in your home. Don’t give up. It’ll take time and concerted effort, but you can change the culture of your family if you truly desire it and take the right action steps to make it happen. Using one of the start pages at FLEXTALK.org is a simple way to begin.
The Discovery Principle
Our goal for our kids should be to help them discover who they are, what they want out of life, and what they’re willing to put into life. This is the opposite of lecturing your kids or deciding from before they’re born what job they’ll have, who they’ll marry, or the kind of person they’ll be. If you want your kids to take ownership in their lives, they need to discover things for themselves rather than simply checking off all the boxes you’ve drawn up for them. Conversation can help make that happen.
The Ownership Principle
Ownership is about self-responsibility. People live out values when they have a sense of ownership for those values. Parents: equipping your kids to “take ownership” as a lifestyle is crucial for their growth and development, especially after they leave your care for college, work, travel, or whatever is next in their lives. You’re the ones who provide the strong foundation for them to stand on during tumultuous times.
When it comes to conversation topics, this means ensuring everyone has a chance to engage with each discussion question in a topic. It shouldn’t just be the person who called for the conversation doing all the talking, otherwise, you’re having a lecture, not a conversation.
Whether for ten minutes or sixty minutes, commit as a family to having conversations. Use one of our ten-week (or shorter) series to help make it happen. This is the first step to developing a conversation culture for your family.