Do you have a toxic coworker who makes your job considerably more stressful? Here, we explore how to handle the situation in a mature, productive way.

It’s an unfortunate truth that toxic people are everywhere in the world, including workplaces, which should be sanctuaries of professionalism. Whether you have a colleague who stirs up drama, gossips constantly, or simply effuses negativity, they can drain your energy, affect your productivity, and even make you dread going to work. So what can you do about it? Read on to explore how to handle having a toxic coworker in the most mature, productive way.

Identify the Toxic Behavior

First things first, pin down what’s making this coworker toxic. Is it constant criticism? Passive-aggressive remarks? Gossiping? Identifying the behavior will help you understand their impact on the team and figure out the best way to respond.

Remember that your goal should be to address the behavior, not judge the person. By narrowing your focus to this person’s mindset or actions, you’re more likely to be able to resolve the issue without intensifying the negativity.

Set Boundaries Early

Toxic coworkers thrive in environments where boundaries are loose. Make it clear (politely yet firmly) what you’re comfortable with. For example, if they consistently interrupt you during meetings, respond with something like, “Let me please finish my thought before we move forward.” Setting these boundaries means you’re not enabling their toxic tendencies.

Stay Cool Under Pressure

It’s easy to snap back when someone says or does something infuriating, but losing your temper will only escalate the situation. Keep your composure, and try responding with professionalism. Toxic people often want a reaction, but staying neutral takes away that power. Instead, focus on keeping interactions brief and to the point.

Address the Issue Directly (When Necessary)

Sometimes, the best way to deal with toxicity is to face it head-on. Schedule a private conversation and address the issue respectfully and directly. Focus on how their behavior is affecting the person or team rather than attacking them personally. But keep in mind that this person might not treat you with the same consideration. This is when knowing how to give and receive constructive criticism well could soften the conversation for both of you.

Loop in Management If Things Escalate

If the situation doesn’t improve or begins to spiral out of hand, it’s okay and even wise to involve your manager or HR. But be specific. Provide examples of the behavior and explain how it’s affecting your work performance or team morale. This step shouldn’t feel like tattling. Instead, it should feel like a good-faith move toward restoring a healthy work environment.

If you have a toxic coworker, you can handle the situation in a way that doesn’t escalate tensions or bring yourself down to their level. Be aware of when toxicity is present, and be proactive about controlling its impact on your career and mental health. There is a light at the end of the tunnel if you respond maturely and professionally.

Talk About It:
    1. What are some signs of toxic behavior in the workplace?
    2. How do you set healthy boundaries with coworkers?
    3. Have you successfully addressed a conflict with a coworker before? What worked for you?
    4. When is it appropriate to escalate an issue to management or HR?
    5. What do you think you should do if the situation doesn’t improve?