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What’s the difference between holding a grudge and releasing a friendship?

Key Points:

  • You can release a friendship without being bitter about it.
  • You won’t have deep friendships with everyone. People are different and not everyone gets along perfectly. You have to pick and choose who you spend the most time with.
  • Drawing a relational boundary doesn’t require a grudge. You can draw a boundary without being bitter.
  • Learn to say, “I wish you the best.” This is the test to see if you’re really holding a grudge. If you can truly wish someone the best without being best friends with them, you’re probably not holding a grudge. Make sure you can look someone in the eye and honestly say “I wish you the best.”

Quote This:

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.- Mahatma Gandhi

See Also: Relationships

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Have you ever had to release a relationship? What happened?
  3. In what ways have you seen that you’re not going to be best friends with everyone?
  4. What sorts of boundaries have you had to draw with people? Why did you perceive that those boundaries were needed for those relationships?
  5. Have you ever held a grudge against someone? What happened?
  6. Has anyone ever held a grudge against you? What happened?
  7. How can you learn to get over a grudge and to truly wish others the best?
  8. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.