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Exercising self-control takes understanding your "two brains" - and how they fight against each other.

Key Points:

  • Many people struggle with self-control. It often feels like our brains don’t want to be in control.
  • There are three main ways to view willpower: I WILL power, I WON’T power, and I WANT power.
  • I WILL power helps us decide whether or not we want to experience the consequences of our actions.
  • I WON’T power is about resisting temptation.
  • I WANT power helps us remember what we truly, deeply want most.
  • Willpower is ultimately about paying attention to our deepest wants and needs.
  • Understanding different types of willpower will help us make better choicies moving forward.

Quote This:

Willpower isn’t something that gets handed out to some and not to others. It is a skill you can develop through understanding and practice. -Gillian Riley

See Also: Habits, Temptation

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Describe the two different “brains” we all have when it comes to making choices. Which brain usually dominates your decisions? How would you have answered that when you were younger?
  3. “I Won’t” power is the ability to resist temptation. Give an example.
  4. “I Will” power is the ability to remember that you want the positive consequences of something difficult. Give an example.
  5. “I Want” power is the ability to have clarity on what matters most to you in life. Give an example.
  6. Which of these three powers do you think is hardest to use? Easiest? Why?
  7. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.