Understanding your temperament can help you appreciate your spouse- rather than trying to change them into your likeness.
Talking Points:
- Introverts are energized by alone time and solitude. Extroverts are recharged being around people.
- Sensors like to process information with concrete ideas and measurable results. Intuitors like to dream of all the possibilities and get bored easily.
- Thinkers are objective and analytical and will make hard decisions, even if unpopular. Feelers are motivated more by how actions affect others and they prefer harmony.
- Judgers enjoy a lifestyle of routine and order and are uncomfortable with chaos. Perceivers are easily distracted and enjoy to explore and play.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- On a scale of 1-10, how different are you in personality from your spouse? (1, no different to 10, completely different). Explain.
- If you haven’t already, take the inventory to discover your personality. You can google your temperament and find a lot of additional information to help you understand yourself. Share your findings with your spouse.
- Up to now, how have your personality differences impacted your ability to connect as a couple? Explain.
- Identify the areas in your marriage where you have the most conflict or dissatisfaction. How do your personality differences feed these issues?
- How could new insights into your personalities help you to avoid these traps in the future?
- Why is it important to understand each other’s temperaments? How could you use this information to improve your marriage?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
