Universal quantifiers are over-generalizations that only add fuel to the fire in your conflict so avoid them at all costs!
Talking Points:
- Universal quantifiers are words like “always” or “never” that are used to over-generalize someone’s motives and actions.
- Three reasons why you shouldn’t use them in conflict:
- They aren’t true.
- They create defensiveness.
- They chip away at trust.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- How do your fights with your spouse typically go? What words and actions in both of you tend to derail the conversation?
- What are some other examples of universal quantifiers? Why are such over-generalizations so frustrating?
- How have you used your words to hurt your spouse in the past? What will you start doing to guard your tongue from hurtful, over-generalizing words?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
