Watch the video above and talk about it with a group or mentor. Learn more.

Everyone who has accessed porn has gotten there by believing lies. Learn 5 of them here.

Key Points:

  • A lot of boys are exposed to pornography at a young age. Many people become addicted but don’t really see it that way.
  • Here are some of the lies pornography will tell you:
  • “It’s not hurting anyone.” The question is “What is hurt?” Pornography can and does have long-term, detrimental effects on users, even if it is not readily apparent.
  • “It’s not the same thing as cheating on my wife.” Cheating is not just physical, but mental and emotional. Pornography isn’t just about seeing other women, but about wanting them. That’s very far from being faithful to your marriage vows!
  • “It could save our marriage.” It is highly unlikely your wife will be okay with you using pornography. It will introduce conflict into your relationship.
  • “It doesn’t affect my emotions.” Addictions mask our emotions and keep us from addressing the struggles we are really facing.

Quote This

An addiction is the continued use of any mind or mood altering substance or experience even in the face of negative consequence.

See Also: Addiction, Just for MenMarriage

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. When were you first exposed to pornography? How?
  3. How has your porn use affected your relationship or marriage thus far?
  4. How is “It’s not hurting anyone” a lie? Give an example if you have one.
  5. How is “It’s not the same thing as cheating on my wife” a lie? Give an example if you have one.
  6. How is “It could save our marriage” a lie? Give an example if you have one.
  7. How is “It doesn’t affect my emotions” a lie? Give an example if you have one.
  8. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.