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Self-confidence is a skill we all struggle with, but also one we can all develop.

Key Points:

  • Self-confidence is something that everyone struggles with, regardless of social status, age, ethnicity, or other factors. It’s the skill of believing you can accomplish something. Since it is considered a skill, that means it is something we can all learn and develop.
  • Knowing who you are is the most important step of developing self-confidence. Knowing yourself starts with acknowledging the simple fact that you are human, and as a human you are valuable. Beyond that you should know what make you unique. You need to know who you really are. You can do this by figuring out what you’re good at and what you’re not good at.
  • Find something that you are good at and practice that thing. You aren’t going to find an “easy button” around your house that will help you naturally be great at something. You have to practice in order to excel.
  • There are going to be negative things in your life, you have to expect that. When those negative things happen you have to be able to take hold of your emotions and practice self-control. Don’t fall into toxic self-talk that will tear you down.
  • You’ll have to power through. Learning self-confidence isn’t going to be easy. You have to remember it’s a skill, so you won’t be great at it at first. You just have to keep practicing and stay disciplined with your thoughts. Don’t give up.

Quote This:

Confidence is contagious. So is lack of confidence. – Vince Lombardi

See Also: Success, Emotions

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Who is the most confident person you know? How has their confidence impacted their life?
  3. Who is the least confident person you know? How has their lack of confidence impacted their life?
  4. Which of these tips is the hardest for you? The easiest? Explain.
  5. Why do you think it’s so hard to be confident?
  6. What are some other ways you can practice the skill of self-confidence? How will a growth in your self confidence help you in your life?
  7. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.