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Parents aren't perfect. Work hard to have a good relationship with them and be ready to forgive when they disappoint you.

Key Points:

  • Bad things can happen in our lives, and sometimes they are caused by the very people who are supposed to love us.
  • Your life isn’t about your past or your parents. It’s your future and what you choose to make of it.
  • In every situation in life you have an option: Let your circumstances make you bitter or better.
  • Whether your relationship with your parents is awesome, or awful, you are in control of you and how you react. Choose to lead by example.  Set the tone for the kind of relationship you want.
  • Choose to forgive for your mental and emotional health.
  • Have the courage to change the relationship if it’s not what you want.
  • Thank your parents frequently for the things they get right.

Quote This: 

You only have control over three things in your life – the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take. -Jack Canfield

See Also: Relationships, Emotions

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. What is something you are grateful that your parents have done for you? Do you express gratitude to them on a regular basis? Why or not?
  3. What are a few things you want to do just like your parents when you are older and have a family?
  4. What is something you wish your parents would do differently? Have you tried to talk to them about making this change?
  5. If you could trade parents with any of your friends, who would you pick, and why?
  6. Is there something you could do or change to improve your relationship with your parents? How important is it to you to have a good relationship with your parents?
  7. On a scale from 1-10, how bitter and unforgiving have you been toward people who have failed you? What do you need to do to make that number smaller?
  8. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.