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Conflict can be a good thing if you communicate the right way.

Key Points:

  • All meaningful relationships involve conflict resolution. This is what happens when we care about what other people say and do. Fighting means you care – but fight right.
  • Use these 5 sayings to help you navigate conflict in a healthy way:
    • Listen: “Please help me understand…”
    • Restate: “What I hear you saying is…”
    • Ask: “Is that what you’re saying?”
    • Apologize: “I’m sorry for…”
    • Restore: “In the future, I will…”

See Also: CommunicationConflictMarriage

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Describe your last argument with your spouse. What went well? What went wrong? 
  3. On a scale from 1-10, how often do you resolve conflict in your marriage?  
  4. What are some ways to actively show that you are listening when your spouse is speaking? Why is listening to each other important?
  5. Why is it important to ask for clarity (step three) in conflict resolution? What might happen if you don’t?
  6. Do you find it easy or do you find it difficult to apologize? Why is apologizing important?
  7. What would you say is the real heart behind the statement: “In the future, I will…”?
  8. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.