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Here are three tips to increase sexual intimacy in marriage.

Go On Date Nights

Sexually intimacy is not all about what you do in the bedroom. In fact, “physical intimacy comes out of emotional intimacy.” Going out on date nights will help you connect with your spouse emotionally. So, when you go out, don’t just go to dinner and a movie, but rather be creative and have fun together.

Husband: Prioritize Your Wife

Women need around twenty minutes of stimulation to reach orgasm. Therefore, they need a lot of foreplay from their husbands. For example, husbands can give their wives a good massage, do more kissing, and do more heavy petting in order to get their wives sexually stimulated, instead of husbands finishing quickly and leaving their wives unsatisfied.

Post-Sex Pillow Talk

Sometime soon after sex, it is important to talk with your spouse about what you liked or didn’t like about the experience. This keeps the lines of communication open, especially as women’s bodies change with things like pregnancy or hormones. Couples should never be expected to read each other’s minds in the bedroom, but rather, coach one another on what they enjoy.

Sexual intimacy is too important to neglect as a couple. You and your spouse need to be close both physically and emotionally. Spending quality time together on date nights, in the bedroom, and continuing to have good communication will ultimately bring the intimacy you are hoping for with your spouse.

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Key Points:

  • Go on date nights.
  • Husband: prioritize your wife.
  • Post-sex pillow talk.

Quote This:

Physical intimacy comes out of emotional intimacy.

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Talk about some creative ideas for a date night.
  3. How can couples going out and having fun together increase sexual intimacy once at home in the bedroom?
  4. How are men and women different when it comes to how long it takes to be sexually stimulated? Why?
  5. Why is it important for a husband to think of his wife first in the bedroom?
  6. Why do most couples find it difficult to talk to each other about their sex life?
  7. How can talking about your sex life with your spouse increase your sexual intimacy?
  8. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.