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Dr. Mike gives some practical advice on following the "90/10 rule" and managing your stress.

Key Points:

  • Stress is complex. It’s caused by multiple factors and causes multiple outcomes. But stress management is a skill that can be learned.
  • Stress can cause many negative effects, but, properly-regulated, it can help people in high-stress environments to succeed and excel.
  • To manage your stress change your thinking style. Stress is not a physical factor, but a mental factor. And because it is mental, it is actually we who create stress in our brains! The fact is that many of us choose stress.
  • Many of us can fall into negative thinking traps by adopting negative outlooks, assuming the worst, and giving up on our goals because we don’t think we’ll succeed.
  • Mindfulness is another way to manage stress. Mindfulness techniques are things like increasing our self-awareness, a physical component like breathing management, meditation, and an emphasis on “letting go” of distractions – which will reduce stress for sure!
  • Your attitude or outlook on life can affect your stress. If you are committed to various causes (IE, you don’t get your identity from just one thing but are balanced), realize that you can’t control everything, and that things will change whether you like it or not…so adapt!
  • The keys to the stress your experience is your thoughts and attitudes, not your boss, not traffic, and not anything outside of your control.

Quote This:

Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and choose our response. In that response lies our growth and freedom. -Viktor Frankl

See Also: Health, Mental Health, StressWorkplace

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. What is the most stressful situation you’ve experienced in the last year?
  3. On a scale of 1-10, how stressful is your life right now? How would you have rated it 10 years ago? Explain.
  4. How do you handle your stress? Have you ever tried to change your “thinking style” like the video says? Explain.
  5. “Between stimulus and response, there is a space.” Explain this statement and relate it to your own life.
  6. Explain the “90/10 rule”. Do you agree with it? Why or why not?
  7. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.

This topic is adapted from the DocMikeEvans YouTube channel.