We all have a natural way we respond when we're hurt or angry and it's called our fight language.
Talking Points:
- The three fight languages: escalation, withdrawal and invalidation. None of these bring about good communication.
- Healthy communication means you don’t point fingers, you both practice active listening and you solve the problem together.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Describe a typical fight with your spouse. What tends to happen when you argue?
- Which of the fight languages best describes you? Your spouse? How have you seen the fight languages derail your communication?
- Why is it important to frame your frustration with emotion language rather than accusatory language?
- What does active listening look like practically? What happens when neither of you are listening to the other?
- Think of a past argument. Did you ever get to the problem solving stage? Explain. Why is it imperative to solve the problem together?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
