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Breakups are hard, but advance preparation can go a long way in minimizing the damage.

Key Points:

  • Here are seven steps to breaking up the right way:
  • Make sure you really want to break up.
  • Figure out what you’re going to say. Write down your thoughts so they are clear to you.
  • Plan out a specific time to have the conversation. You don’t want to be in this conversation for hours.
  • Make plans for right after the conversation so you have a valid reason of why you need to end the conversation and move on.
  • Have the conversation. Be brave. Be kind. Be honest.
  • When it’s over, it’s over. Don’t make plans to talk later. Make the clean break.
  • Make the stuff exchange. If you have a sweatshirt of theirs, give it to a friend to give it back.

Quote This:

Pain makes you stronger, fear makes you braver, heartbreak makes you wiser. -Drake

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Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Share breakup story you know of. Did it go well or was it a disaster? Explain.
  3. List some of the reasons breakups are hard. 
  4. Why is it important to go into a breakup conversation with a plan? What usually happens if you start a conversation without knowing where you’re going?
  5. What are some things you should not say in breakup conversation?
  6. How can you be honest yet kind when breaking off a relationship?
  7. Why is it important to not leave a door open to a future with that person? What is likely to happen if you do?
  8. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.