We all make mistakes but is it helpful to hate ourselves over it?
Talking Points:
- The typical model for anger is known as the “ABC” model. A stands for Activating event, B stands for the Belief about what I did and myself, and C is for the consequences faced as a result of my actions.
- Challenge the way you think about the mistakes you make. One action doesn’t make you a horrible person, so don’t let yourself think like that.
- Practice self-compassion, not in a way that excuses your actions, but rather in a way that takes it as an opportunity to grow and move forward. Punishing ourselves is not constructive, and it may be setting us back even further.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- What are some of the most classic examples of self-loathing?
- What are some things you do that make you angry at yourself?
- What are some mistakes you make that you can rethink? How can you challenge your beliefs to make it constructive?
- How can you practice self-compassion in your life to ensure that you are living out your values on a daily basis?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
