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Narcissism isn’t just a personality type that shows up in advice columns; it’s actually a set of traits classified and studied by psychologists.

Key Points:

  • Narcissism is an inflated, grandiose self-image. To varying degrees, narcissists feel that they are more important than other people.
  • “Grandiose” narcissism is a personality trait, characterized by extroversion, dominance and attention-seeking.
  • “Vulnerable” narcissists are often quiet and easily threatened, with a strong sense of entitlement.
  • Narcissism is derived from both nature and nurture. While it has a strong genetic component, parenting styles play a key role as well.
  • Narcissistic personality disorder is narcissism taken to the extreme, and it affects 1- 2% of adult Americans. Traits include a grandiose view of oneself, problems with empathy, a sense of entitlement, and a need for admiration or attention.

Quote This:

I don’t care what you think unless it is about me. –Kurt Cobain

See Also: Mental Health, Relationships, Workplace

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. How can you spot a narcissist? Make a list of actions or traits.
  3. Consider current culture. Do you think people tend more towards grandiose or vulnerable narcissism? Defend your answer.
  4. Why is narcissism toxic to relationships? How have you ever experienced this?
  5. Describe unhealthy parenting behaviors that can contribute to each type of narcissistic tendencies?
  6. Have you ever witnessed a narcissist take steps to change? If so, what triggered action?
  7. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.