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We hear anywhere from 10 to 200 lies a day - here's how to spot them.

Key Points:

  • When someone is lying they will reference themselves less, avoiding the use of personal pronouns. The liar will avoid taking any ownership of a situation, speaking of it in terms of outside involvement. A person bending the truth will make an effort to disassociate themselves from the situation, focusing solely on the actions of another person.
  • As a fibber crafts a lie, they will often create a very simple story, since it’s difficult to add complexity to a fiction. Building a false narrative is cognitively difficult and requires a large amount of situational analysis and forethought.
  • While it is important to be able to spot lying, it’s also important to apply these analyses to ourselves. Building a personality of integrity requires a great deal of reflection. Habitual liars are people that need to be watched out for, especially in close relationships. As you learn to spot lies remember that everyone falls prey to this character flaw and needs some grace to overcome it. “Be as wise as a serpent and as innocent as a dove.”

Quote This:

Lord, Lord, how subject we old men are to this vice of lying. – William Shakespeare

See Also: Character, Integrity

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Why do we lie?
  3. Have you ever been caught in a lie? What was the result?
  4. Have you ever lied and regretted it? Explain why you regretted it?
  5. Has a lie ever helped you? Looking back was that a good thing?
  6. Is there such a thing as a “white lie?” Explain.
  7. How can spotting your own lies be a good thing? Explain.
  8. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.