Introducing

FlexTalk Fridays

A student leadership program that builds a bridge between high school and junior high to change the culture in our schools.

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Drugs. Violence. Depression. Suicide. Students today are struggling like never before, and the solution is shockingly simple. We believe students helping students is the best way forward, and FlexTalk Fridays makes it happen.

How It Works

FlexTalk Friday happens in three phases:

Training

We bring the best high school students through our FlexTalk leadership program, teaching them how to pass along values to the younger generation.

Fridays

We meet once a month at the junior high, putting student leaders in front of ninth graders to talk about topics that actually matter to them.

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Follow Up

We offer more topics for students, parents, and teachers – helping everyone bring values beyond the classroom and into their daily lives. 

The Topics

The FlexTalk library contains hundreds of topics to spark conversations at school, at home, and everywhere. Here’s what we’re featuring this year on Fridays:

Topic #1: Social Media

Key Points:

  • Social media makes us feel like we have to put up a false front of happiness.
  • Social media can cause us to compare ourselves to others and even to ourselves at times.
  • Social media creates unrealistic expectations and false stories of perfection that doesn’t truly exist. 
Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. What are some of your favorite apps or social media platforms? Why do you like these?
  3. If you had to guess, how much often are you on social media daily?
  4. Have you ever “put on a front” on social media? Why do you think people feel pressured to put on a front online?
  5. Why do you think it’s a bad idea to compare our “worst day” to someone else’s “best day” when it comes to social media? Explain.
  6. What are some ways you can develop a healthier mentality about social media, how you use it, and why?
  7. Do you think it’s true that social media engagement really doesn’t matter in the long-run? Why or why not?
  8. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
Topic #2: Study Habits

Key Points:

  • Diligence is about working hard and never giving up.
  • Diligence helps you to develop good habits that will carry you through your life. 
  • If you want to become more diligent, set goals and work hard to achieve them.

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  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Who is someone in your life that you think of as a diligent person? What makes them so diligent?
  3. When was a time in your life when you were not diligent? Explain.
  4. When was a time in your life when you were diligent? Explain.
  5. In what areas of your life do you struggle with setting goals and sticking to them? How could you improve that?
  6. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
Topic #3: Being Different

Key Points:

  • Most of us buy in to a false idea that everyone has to look the same to fit in.
  • Trends become obsessions, and that can blind us to our own opinions.
  • After high school, all of these stupid trends probably won’t matter.
Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. What are the biggest trends right now? What were the trends when your parents were your age?
  3. Who do you think gets to create the trends? How do they do it?
  4. Why do you think kids buy into the latest trends? What makes us want to be like everyone else?
  5. “It’s not what’s on you, it’s what’s in you that counts.” Agree or disagree?
  6. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
Topic #4: Friendship

Key Points:

  • A common stereotype is that girls talk about feelings and boys avoid them.
  • In friendships, guys will roast you to your face but a girl will only do it behind your back.
  • Relating to each other, guys will act tough around girls and girls will act dumb around guys.

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  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Do you disagree with any of the stereotypes? Why? 
  3. What do girls do better than guys in friendships? What do guys do better than girls in friendships?
  4. Why do you think girls feel like they need to play dumb? Why do you think guys feel like they need to act tough?
  5. Make a list of your own friendship stereotypes. Which ones really stand out to you?
  6. In a perfect world, what would these friendships look like? How can you work to make that real life? 
  7. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
Topic #5: Holding Grudges

Key Points:

  • Forgiveness is “extending grace when it is not expected.”
  • A world without forgiveness would be a world full of hatred. 
  • Don’t take everything personally; this will help you forgive.

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  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. When has been a time you were forgiven when it was not deserved?
  3. When was the hardest time you have had to display forgiveness?
  4. Who do you think of when you hear the word “forgiveness”? Why?
  5. Think of a situation in your life when you neglected to give someone forgiveness. When was it and what happened? What are you going to do about it after watching this video?
  6. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
Topic #6: Peer Pressure

Key Points:

  • Peer pressure is when your friends want you to do something and you consider it in order to fit in.
  • There are three steps to beating it:
    • Admit that it might work on you.
    • Surround yourself with good friends.
    • Have the courage to say no when you need to.

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  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Talk about a time you felt “peer pressured.” What happened? How did you handle it?
  3. Why do you think peer pressure is even a thing? Why do people pressure each other to conform?
  4. Why is it important to admit that all of us can be susceptible to peer pressure?
  5. Why is having a good group of friends helpful for overcoming peer pressure?
  6. Why does it take courage to say “no” when you’re being pressured? How can you build up your courage so that you can pass the “tests” of negative peer pressure when they arise?
  7. Can peer pressure ever be a good thing? Explain.
  8. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
Topic #7: Self-Control

Key Points:

  • Self control is choosing what’s right when you’re tempted not to do the right thing.
  • Without self-control, you’ll make bad choices and head down the wrong path.
  • Grow in self-control by: Taking a time out, look at the bigger picture and practice self control in the little things so you’re ready when the big things come along.

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  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. When is a time that you reacted on an impulse and had no self-control? How did the situation turn out for you?
  3. How can self-control benefit you in not giving in to your temptations?
  4. Have you considered what “triggers” you to engage in unhealthy behaviors? What are some of these triggers?
  5. How can you get rid of some of the temptations that you have?
  6. What are some little battles you can win to prepare for some bigger ones?
  7. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
Topic #8: Taking Ownership

Key Points:

  • Ownership means taking responsibility for your part and holding yourself accountable for the things that you did or didn’t do.
  • Not owning up to your actions and pointing fingers makes people lose respect for you.
  • Make a commitment to stop making excuses in at least one area of your life.

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  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. What does it mean to you to take ownership of something? Explain.
  3. Share an experience where you or someone you know failed to take responsibility for something. What was the outcome?
  4. What are some consequences that can come from not taking ownership in your life?
  5. What are some areas of your life where you can start taking ownership? Why do these areas stand out to you?
  6. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
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FlexTalk is funded by a combination of district funds and individual sponsorships. FlexTalk is a non-profit 501c3 corporation and all donations are tax-deductible.

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